Moving on, and slightly, albeit it very, more seriously, these shoes, these bastions of comfort if you will, have come to mean to me adulthood. They are something a man wears in his home, his house, his castle. You don't wear them anywhere else, because 'anywhere else' isn't yours. But this house, this life, this 'me', is me. I am me. I am not something that remains to be seen. I am not on the verge of becoming. I am not on the cusp of some life altering awareness of my true self.
If anything, that is the awareness of my true self, but not so much in a life changing way, but more of a life reaffirming kind of way. This is me. I am 27 years old now, God help me, and feeling older every day. Now, don't be confused, I continue to do, and intend to continue to do, stupid things on a semi-regular basis. It can't be avoided, and I'm enjoying the learning experiences as they come. But that being said, I'm also enjoying getting a little bit more focus. A little clearer picture of what I want.
I am not going to be a different person. I am who I am. However, I can change how I act, what I act like, why I do things, where I do them, and who with. The base is set. The rest is something I can work on. It's cost me a lot to get to this perspective. Tim now would have never lost the girl Tim back then lost, because she was* the perfect girl for me. Tim now would have gone to school straight through and had a good job now. But the Tim back then failed out, quit jobs, screwed up jobs, and basically shot himself in the foot a whole lot.
Life goes on. Tim goes on. I can't change who I am, but I can change what makes me who I am. I can change the parts, and how those parts fit into the whole that is I. Part of that, for me, is a re-dedication to being someone my grandfather would have been proud of. Someone my nephew will still be proud of as he grows up. I will work on being the kind of guy my sister wants me to be, especially in how I treat my women. I know too many great women, and yes I mean my mom, my grandma, my aunt clara, beth, lynnie, and many more, to be a 'guy'.
I will work on school, because apparently people were right and I'm too smart to be a college flunky, and I'm tired of not having proved it. I will work on working. I will work on working hard, and making a good work ethic a habit. I will work on money, and bills, and debt. I will work on this house, making it mine, little by little, and making it my castle, as a man is to do. I will plant my feet into the ground and own who I am. Because this guy's not half bad, with just a little aesthetic work here and there.
The first step was the moccasins. The rest will be way more comfortable in them.
TJQ
*Absence may indeed make the heart grow fonder, but it feels like it was perfect now. Ahh, history, you distorting bitch.